Ok, so we've all learned one way or another that I call 'em like I see 'em. The brutal truth. Tough love... you get the drift....
And if you recall, I blogged a few weeks ago about my cousins' shower. In that post I told a story about how no one greeted me when I walked in & other atrocities. And the list on inappropriate posts could go on & on. I told about how Brad & I rode a motorcycle when Brian was outta town. I blogged about how I didn't like the bride at a wedding reception. And who could forget about the Easter Sunday conversation where we realized Elvis died so Jeremy could live?! Whatever. It is what it is.
So yesterday at lunch, mom tells me that I was 'awfully brave for saying what you said about Amber's shower.' And I was like, "What I said when?!" She said, "Your blog..." And then it started to make sense. Who knew mom reads the blog? How exciting!
Anyway, so I was like, "Why was that brave? It was the truth!" And she said she understood, but didn't think I should've said all that. And I said, "Mom, when I'm at jewelry shows, I greet every person who walks in the door. 'Hi, I'm Jaime the jewelry lady'!" To this she replied, "Yea, but you're trying to sell jewelry!" Whaaaaa? It's not even about that! It's about common freakin' courtesy!
So here's the thing. It WAS the truth. I don't say anything in the blog that is a lie. Everything I say here is the truth as I see it. Now, I will admit I do try to put my special quirky spin on every story I tell you. But the stories themselves are always true. I wouldn't lie to you.
Besides, I don't think any of my family reads the blog. But if they do, I don't see how they could be mad. It.was.the.truth! When Lora & I had a baby shower for Erin 2 years ago - we greeted everyone as they came in. Erin went around to every.single person & spoke. Before the shower started I got up in front of everyone (surprised?!) & introduced myself & welcomed them & thanked them for coming! So when I attend a shower, maybe I have an un-realistic idea of what to expect? Sure, the girls hosting didn't introduce themselves. Ok, fine. Sure, I didn't get a clothes pin thingie when I walked in. Ok, fine. Sure, no one thanked me for coming. Ok, fine. But is it that unreasonable to assume that someone hosting/affiliated with the shower should simply say "hello"? (In the spirit of full disclosure - the brides mom & grandmother sat beside mom & I & spoke to us throughout the shower...) Also, I have YET to get a 'thank you' card for the shower AND wedding. Don't get me started on 'thank you' cards...
So here's the question: Am I pushing the envelope too much with my 'brutal truthfullness?' Should I try to rein myself in? I mean, that's kinda the point of the blog, right? To say what I wanna say how I wanna say it? By God, this is AMERICA! I still have the right to say what I want...for now...
6 comments:
I love your blog and your honesty.
To be fair to the bride, you are given 6-12 months to get thank you cards out for the wedding, showers however should come immediatly.
i'd LOVE to hear your thoughts on thank you notes because i bet they are very different from my own!! :)
be honest! fine by me but give amber a chance to get them out!
Brutal honesty is who you are.....with that said....sometimes it could hurt people's feelings. For the simple reason, someone may see the same thing a different way than you, and when people feel differently, they can get their feathers in a ruffle. I totally enjoy reading what you have to say, but sometimes, I'm shocked, cause if that was my family, they'd be peeved at me!!! I wish I could be more open like that though, as long as your okay with it, then you are right, it's your blog, say what you want sista'....just as long as it's not about me ;)
I heart this blog. I read it about every day. I love your honesty and ability to express yourself so openly. I think you are doing a great job. And, your right, it's your blog and you can vent any time. :)
As far as the bride, I would also give her a little more time for the thank you notes. (When my bff was married 8 1/2 years ago, I helped her with her thank-you notes. I addressed the envelopes and mailed them all for her--she wrote them out herself. It was part of my 'job' to make sure these were done in a timely manner.)
jaime, i think we should have a kind of "blog off" about thank you notes. we should pick a time and blog our opinion of thank you notes at the same time. then we could read each others responses! i think that would be fun! i love the spin you put on things so i'd like to hear your spin on that too! :)
I like your honesty! Now, with that said, I have to say I am a wimp and tend to hold things in b/c I'm afraid of hurting other's feelings. I am a people pleaser and sometimes I wish I could be a little more open. It's your blog, so say what you want. Just be prepared that people may not always agree with you. As far as the thank you notes go, give her more time!! That's my humble opinion. I think the rules are something like 4 months. Now, I don't think it should take that long...but never know! The real thing is that we don't give gifts JUST to get a thank you note. It should be done because we want to show our excitement for the new couple. So, I wouldn't get offended about it. :)
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