I know I can be hard to deal with. Just ask B-rad. Matter of fact, he'd love to tell ya how much of a psycho I am sometimes. I am impatient like my dad. I get it honest. And of course I've told you a thousand times how I used to be quiet & shy & timid & let my 'friends' walk all over me. I do tend to 'dish it out' on a regular basis, but I also feel like on the flip side, 'I can take it'. I have no problem laughing at myself. It's all in good fun.
Sometimes my posts push the envelope a bit with my hard hitting 'honesty is the best policy' attitude. But I can't help it. That's just who I've been for the last 17 years. So after mom telling me I was brave for some things I say & you all coming out in full force, I thought I'd address some things YOU guys said. I feel like they are THAT important! First I want to THANK YOU all for HONEST, CONSTRUCTIVE comments. I'm glad you enjoy my honesty. There's an unspoken 'line' of what's 'ok' to say & what's not. And sometimes I stomp on that line like it stole somethin'...
Jami Leigh Lee:I love your blog and your honesty.To be fair to the bride, you are given 6-12 months to get thank you cards out for the wedding, showers however should come immediatly.
I didn't know about the etiquette on that. I will also say that when I mentioned not even getting a thank you note yet - I was 1/2 serious, 1/2 kidding. I said half...
Robin:I heart this blog. I read it about every day. I love your honesty and ability to express yourself so openly. I think you are doing a great job. And, your right, it's your blog and you can vent any time. :)As far as the bride, I would also give her a little more time for the thank you notes. (When my bff was married 8 1/2 years ago, I helped her with her thank-you notes. I addressed the envelopes and mailed them all for her--she wrote them out herself. It was part of my 'job' to make sure these were done in a timely manner.
uhm, exsqueeze me? I read it ABOUT every day? Tsk, tsk... Again, patience is a virture....that I don't possess...
Tracey I like your honesty! Now, with that said, I have to say I am a wimp and tend to hold things in b/c I'm afraid of hurting other's feelings. I am a people pleaser and sometimes I wish I could be a little more open. It's your blog, so say what you want. Just be prepared that people may not always agree with you. As far as the thank you notes go, give her more time!! That's my humble opinion. I think the rules are something like 4 months. Now, I don't think it should take that long...but never know! The real thing is that we don't give gifts JUST to get a thank you note. It should be done because we want to show our excitement for the new couple. So, I wouldn't get offended about it. :) I have no problem when people don't agree with me. In fact, I think that's what makes us all wonderfully designed. We are all different. In every single way. I don't expect everyone to 'like' what I have to say ALL the time... (just like maybe 85%?!). I like hearing other peoples points of views. And I enjoy the banter back & forth when I don't agree with someone on something. While I AM hard-headed, I try to understand & respect others opinions. And yes, you're correct, I do not attend showers, receptions, weddings, etc. JUST to get a thank you note. But I do feel like it's proper... more on that in my 'thank you note' post.
Alicia i'd LOVE to hear your thoughts on thank you notes because i bet they are very different from my own!! :)be honest! fine by me but give amber a chance to get them out!
ok, I GET it! I gotta chill!
Ginmommy Brutal honesty is who you are.....with that said....sometimes it could hurt people's feelings. For the simple reason, someone may see the same thing a different way than you, and when people feel differently, they can get their feathers in a ruffle. I totally enjoy reading what you have to say, but sometimes, I'm shocked, cause if that was my family, they'd be peeved at me!!! I wish I could be more open like that though, as long as your okay with it, then you are right, it's your blog, say what you want sista'....just as long as it's not about me ;)
Ahhh, this is the one that got me right in the ticker. I never, ever mean to hurt anyone's feelings. I don't try to be a vicious person. I know words can hurt. And God knows I let my mouth run faster than my brain sometimes. But here's the thing. I have feelings too. And most of the time MY reactions to people or to situations is a direct result of how those people hurt my feelings. And I know you may not believe this, but there are some things I don't blog about. (Pick your chin up off the ground.) But it's true, even I have limits. (I didn't tell you 2 of my cousins at the wedding had no teeth. Seriously. All their teeth - gone.) To me, THAT kind of thing is hurtful. They can't help it all their teeth are gone now. (Technically they probably could've had better dental hygiene habits- but I get off topic...) But not saying 'hello' to someone? You CAN help that? See where I make that difference?!
My side of the family is not so close. You have probably noticed I don't blog about them much. But with Brad's fam, we're all so intertwined because of the farm & the fact that we live within 2 minutes of each other, sometimes that gives me more ammo. I've told you before, I do not get along with Brad's brother. And that's a loooong story that goes back 16 years. And I make no bones about that. He even knows I don't like him much. And I think the feeling is mutual. Sorry, that's just the way it is. Sister in law? Love her. Niece & great-nieces? Love them. Nephews? Love them. I just have a problem with Brian. And because of some of the things that have gone on, I have NO problem whatsoever speaking my mind about him. I will NOT cower down to him. I do not like the way he treats B-rad sometimes & in that respect I'm like the big bad bear mama protecting her young. Again, it goes back to being a psycho & not wanting to go back to the time where I would just let him bowl me over.
That being said, Ginmommy is absolutely correct. Sometimes my words may hurt peoples feelings. And for that, I am truly, truly sorry. That has never been my intention. (My intention is to make ya'll laugh!) And I will try to make a conscience effort to think a little more about who may be reading that I may NOT know about.
And maybe it's bad to say? But I like who I am. I like that I try to be honest. I like that I don't take crap off anyone. But I don't wanna be that mean girl who just says mean things to be mean. Nope, nu uh, that's NOT me. Maybe I say 'not such nice things' to be funny (but they're all TRUE 'not such nice things'...)? There's that silly unspoken line again. Hmph! Bear with me - Rome wasn't built in a day, people...