I love my husband but also want to kill him...

So yesterday was our 14 year anniversary.  GULP.  Where has the time gone?  I was like JUST 25 a minute ago...

Ya'll know I have an empty cavity where the heart normally resides, so when my hubby wrote THIS on Facebook...I nearly died...

Yes, it's sweet.  Yes, it's nice.  Yes, yes yes.  But it's soooo not me.  And of course, he knows this...he married THIS for crying out loud... 

I responded to him the best I could think at 6:31 am..."Love you...but you know I hate the mushy stuff..." to which HE responded "It's only once a year sooooo STFU."  (Which for those of you who don't know is 'shut the f*** up'.)  You will notice 8 people liked that...I am one of those 8.  THAT IS ME.

For the most part, we are sarcastic together like this.  I certainly understand that some couples enjoy the mushiness...we are not one of those couples.  But if that works for you, by all means - go be mushy... 

We spent our anniversary like any ole' normal couple...he was in a tractor putting down nitrogen & I went to Shauna's to hang out with her & Dylan.  We went to check out the NEW McDonald's at Highlander Point AND she even paid for my dinner & dessert!   That was very nice of her!  She said, "I'm sorry you have to spend your anniversary with me!"  I had more fun with them than I would have sitting at home.  

B-rad got home around 10:15pm to eat a gourmet meal of chicken tenders.  Isn't he the luckiest guy ever?!  Listen, here's the thing...it doesn't bode well for B-rad that I be a mushy, clingy, romantic kinda girl.  Because if I was, this is what he would've been bothered with heard:  'But it's our ANNIVERSARY!  You HAVE to take me out to dinner & on a date.  We HAVE to be together on the day we got married!"   (I understand things like this may have more importance when you have kids & need any excuse to escape their tiny clutches, alas that's not an issue for us.)  And if you do act like this & it works for you, that's ok- I mean NO disrespect... & if it works for your 'significant other' that's also ok.  This doesn't work for US.  Different strokes for different folks is my motto!

Very bluntly & simply - I don't care that we didn't spend our anniversary together.  I know he loves me. (I mean - I'm crazy & he puts up with me!)  I know I love him.   I know if he could take me out to dinner every night of the week - he would especially since he knows I hate to cook.... but he can't.  This time of year he's focused on the farm.  He's investing in OUR future together.  I can't begrudge him that.  Now - that's not to say I don't have my moments... I do!  There are times we miss doing things because he's busy.  Yes, that sucks & sometimes I get mad & stomp & throw myself on the ground but that doesn't solve anything.  It only makes him feel worse.  I married a farmer...I knew what I was signing up for...

I have had people ask, "How did you manage to get him to marry you in June?  That's a busy time for farmers!"  My defense to that is back then they didn't farm as much land & their dad was still helping so by mid-June things were starting to wind down.  No worries though - I caught grief for it for sure!  (My birthday is in May when B-rad is UBER busy...he always tells me I was born in the wrong time of the year.  THAT-my dear stalkers- is why I love him!)  The boys have picked up several hundred more acres than they did 14 years ago & their dad no longer helps with the farm...at all...

June 12, 1999

Here's a teeny tiny itty bitty piece of mush for you softies out there (ahem, Ginmommy...) (besides the whole 'he's working for our future' bit.)  There are SO many things I've gotten to do & places I've traveled that would NOT have been possible without Brad McAfee.  He's always game for any stupid idea I come up with & he's there to protect me from myself.  (Like the time he yanked me out of the street in Vegas when a cab was heading right for me because I walked out in front of it.)  He did a lot of things as a kid with his family & his sense of adventure has been a REAL learning experience for this home body.  (He still gets irritated at me when we travel & I'm ready to come home & he wants to stay for another 2 weeks!)

A year & a half ago we were in Hawaii & watched the sunset on top of a dormant volcano.

4 months ago we took our 3rd (!) trip to Vegas so I could sit 15' from Faith Hil & cry when I saw her...

I find it ironic & funny that on our anniversary I was unable to wear my thing I love more than my husband wedding ring because I'm allergic to it.  Go figure.  

Since sharing pics of my gorgeous ring never gets old for me... this is what it would've looked like on my hand...

and this is what it looks like locked in my safe until we meet again... Pitiful I tell ya...